It's weird enough bumping into one of your exes (ewww, or scarily enough your current man's ex) but when an ex e-mails you about relationship advice, that's just stomach-churning weird.

I received an e-mail today from a distraught ex (do I look like a psychiatrist here?) who is basically going through what we went through at the end of our relationship with his current girlfriend. I guess he figured I was experienced so I must be a good person to come to for advice.

It really is a shyte deal, though. I mean, long distance relationships have never and will never work for me. I'm actually quite surprised that he went straight back into another long distance relationship. But when it comes to love there's really not much you can do. I guess, in a sense, it's pretty cold-hearted of me to say I'll NEVER do it again.

The thing that I hope he got from my particularly honest reply is that it's just life. We all have to deal with loving and losing someone (and maybe karma has come back and kicked him in the pants...ok, it wasn't all his fault, but most of our failed relationship was). Even though I thought the world was going to fall from beneath me and my life was just one big question for about 2 months before and after we broke up, it all worked out. And it will for him, too.

After reading the e-mail I felt like I might be sick. It just flooded back way too many emotions for a Wednesday afternoon workday. I mean, it's hard enough for me to concentrate on one thing and not get distracted at work but then someone sends a whooper like that and you're like, whoa, I didn't need to start thinking, or feeling like that again.

But then, after letting it digest, I smiled and thought, "Hot damn am I a lucky girl."

I'm with someone who really cares about me and gives a damn. RIGHT NOW. He's not waiting until he gets a little bit more mature or a little bit more money to make me feel like the queen I deserve to be.

He treats me like that here and now. And I'm still head over heels.